Anonymous asked: Because girls never exclude other girls or never exclude guys by claiming "safe space," right? Jesus christ, I get that you have a daughter and you're looking out for her, but that doesn't mean that women have it any worse than guys now that you're focusing on one. Wake the fuck up. What sex drops out of school at great rates? What sex has the highest poverty and suicide rate? What sex is less likely to get into college? Men. So stop being a mouthbreathing white knight.
I love when righteous indignation hides behind anonymity. You poor, poor boy. You are beyond wrong, and that you cannot see why, that you cannot see how the made-up data you cite itself is part of the problem, is part of the bias, only makes me pity you.
You’re a coward.
You’re exactly the problem I’m describing.
And you have no leg to stand on. I am tired of you, I am tired of your type.
Good luck with what I am sure will be a long and miserable life.
Is claiming safe spaces are exclusionary to white guys the new MRA go to or something?
I get it. By bringing up the likelihood of self-destructiveness of men, I think what OP is trying to say is that not only do women need a safe space from men, but men also need a safe space from themselves.
I feel the same way about pigeons
Men make $1.22 for every woman’s $1.
It interests me that even the most common simple measure of gender inequality is firmly based on male-as-normative …
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This is an amazing blog of someone who draws caricatures of people on okcupid with their own words beneath. It’s all real. I’ve never been on okcupid but now I’m scared.
Groundhog Day - Phil hits rock bottom
treeoflight asked: It just clicked that you made Sexy Losers and Depression Comix... I knew the styles were similar but I kinda got slow. I've been a fan of your art and humor for the longest and still every now and then hop to the old site. And now I'm loving your stuff all over again with DC cause it hits me to the bone... I just wanted to say thanks for the laughs of the past and the tears/understanding of my present. Well, I should say our present... It's helped make it easier for my friends and fam understand
I try to draw the two a little differently — for example, DC is completely analogue, I try to sidestep the anime influences and I haven’t used the word FAP once yet. If you look at the first fifty strips or so, you can see I was really trying to make the comic look different, but recently my old style slips in occasionally. Thank you for the kind words and I wish you well.
adiloffirenze asked: How old were you when u started sexy losers?
Obviously not old enough to know better.
(still not, probably)
My life philosophy.
Who needs religion when you have Bill & Ted?
theprimeofmissvemm asked: Yay! So happy to see you're active. Sexy Losers was HILARIOUS, and you rock. Kudos and Merry Christmas/Happy New Year and shit ^_^
I’m not active, I’m sitting on my butt typing into a computer. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, but I’ll pass on the shit.
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At the same time, there is some stigma surrounding depression and mental illness such that it establishes the commonly held idea that we need people, significant others, or what have you, and their support to recover. The idea of recovery as a binary with suffering-from-mental-illness/crazy or depressed versus totally “normal” and happy is certainly a problematic assumption. Those of us with mental illnesses don’t need an olympics of suffering or specific types of people to support us, we just need support, whether or not it comes from others or from ourselves in ourselves -that is what matters more than anything: whether or not we have the motivation, support, self-confidence, or hope to survive another day.
I certainly agree with many of the points you made here and elsewhere since, so this is just one portion of my opinion.
"… commonly held idea that we need people, significant others, or what have you, and their support to recover” if this was truly a commonly held idea, I think more people would follow it. I don’t believe this is a commonly held idea at all, or at least held enough to make people follow it in practice. The strip itself had nothing to do with that, it was a response to a friend’s post asking me to post some examples of positive responses to people’s suffering rather than the negative ones that make up most of the comic to date.
syvelior asked: I've been following your work for over a decade and I think you're pretty great. I will be in Tokyo for a few days around Christmastime and I suspect that the things you think are rad will be things I think are rad. Any suggestions?
As a long-term resident I’ve kind of lost interest in the wacky fun touristy things a long while back. All I can suggest is try as much of the local food as you can, there’s a reason why there’s a Michelin guide in Tokyo, the food is absolutely incredible. North Americans may find it bland, however.
surprising i know
There are entire communities and social groups and experiences, stories, memories, etc in “white” countries without any white people too.
I long time ago I wrote a high school drama type of serial story about a social group that was mostly East Asian characters and one white character. I based it on my own HS experiences and people I knew. A lot of people liked it. But I showed it to a white friend of mine online, and she said she didn’t like it. I asked why, and she said it was “unrealistic” and racist. I asked why it was racist, and she said because most of the characters were Asian, there was only one white character and he was a side character, and she couldn’t associate with any of the mains because they weren’t white. My response was “turn on the television, welcome to my life.”
She said that was different though. That’s “realistic” and everybody can understand those characters. Even though my story wasn’t really any different except it was Asian people having teen drama, it was “unrealistic” because we all know social groups of Asian people don’t exist, and it’s racist because when you have mostly non-white people in a story, then it’s weird and strange, and white people are the “every person” who everybody can associate with, but non-white people are niche.
Take, for example, Mike Lee and Will Evans, students from the U.S. and Canada, respectively, who applied to be English teachers through the New Development School, a teacher-placement agency in Beijing. Being fluent speakers of English, both believed they would make competitive candidates.
What they didn’t know is that recruiters would not be evaluating them just on their English fluency or academic credentials. Instead, they were judged primarily on physical appearance.
Yeah.. my brother was politely asked to leave his first English teaching job in Shanghai because the kids’ parents’ didn’t want a Black guy teaching their kids English.
Fly 20 hrs across the world.. no white people around.. and you still gotta deal with whiteness. I just find it so discouraging.
It’s a good thing Japan and Korea are different.
Hahaha, no, they aren’t
(Extra employability points if you have blue eyes and blonde hair)